Happy Friday readers ! I hope you all had an excellent weekend filled to the brim with your goals and dreams. Glad to have you back here.
Speaking of dreams let’s jump right into it. First let me just make sure we all know I’m not just talking about dreams that mean nothing or had no feeling. I’m talking about those dreams that have you waking up and rethinking life choices or have you intently focused on your future. Ones that have such deep emotions it leaves you wondering exactly what’s going on inside your head.
I’m pretty sure we have all had at least one dream that has led us to doing research in about what the “signs” mean. Not the average things like dreaming about fish or having one of those dreams where you’re falling or even why we can never seem to punch harder than a baby in our dreams. I’m talking about very physical and emotional vivid dreams. As an addict in recovery I’m sure one person can relate to the vividness of a “drug dream”. For all my none addicts try thinking back to your school days, falling asleep at your desk and falling in your dream; it’s so vivid that you literally jump out of your sleep most likely startling those around you.
Now that we are perfectly clear, allow me to explain my personal situation. Full disclosure due to my forgetfulness and I suppose lack of priority, I have been off my mental health medication this weekend. I didn’t exactly sleep peacefully, deeply and I believe I might have been up and down for a quarter of the night. I experienced a very emotionally vivid dream which at this point may be a reoccurring dream. This is the second time I’ve had this particular dream. Just a vivid the only difference was instead of the second act in the dream it seemed to replay the beginning. Not identically like deja vu, but it seem as if my subconscious wanted me to pay more attention to the small details.
The human mind is a very complex, complicated and I think one my least understood organ of the human body. Sleep in itself is weird. Not dead of course but somewhat not alive I suppose. All of our homeostasis systems are still very much active. Like we breathe while we are sleeping and most certainly can hear things it just doesn’t register like it would of we were awake. Then we have crazy things like sleep paralysis. Scientist believe dreams are our brain’s way of dealing with things we have experienced. Trauma, pain things we don’t fully understand. So our brain doesn’t ever really rest.
So to be specific I had a dream that included my adoptive parent, siblings and 2 other relatives. More in depth there was a very strong emotion of anger almost rage that consciously I don’t feel. Even now I don’t feel the same as I did in my dream. To be transparent I have been avoiding the parent and a very deep conversation we need to have. Being physically, mentally and verbally abused by her as a child it’s not far fetched as an adult I would have these type dreams but honestly I thought I had forgave her and moved on from the trauma. Apparently not, and do we ever really recover from trauma, or do we just learn to deal with it in a more healthy way?
Being the second time that I had this exact dream I know paid closer attention to it in it’s entirety and to the small details I may have missed the first time. My subconscious is trying to make sense of the trauma and the disconnect from it that I’m assuming I have mistaken for healing or being over it. Our brain is funny in that way, we have little to no control of our thoughts and even less over our subconsciousness. Pretty ironic in the sense that it literally controls everything, from our breathing to our reactions to our emotions.
If I could leave you with anything today it would be to pay attention to your dreams and even more close attention to the feelings and emotions you experience in the dream realm. We have little actual communication between ourselves and our brain or cognitive thinking. The least we could do is pay attention, right? Thanks for listening my readers. Meet you right back here tomorrow morning. Enjoy your day!
-K