10 months of wearing a crown…

Yes I am back again to complain about my hair…ūüôĄ

Almost a year and it feels like I’ve been fighting with this hair for over a decade. It’s been over 6 weeks since I’ve had a valid set of braids and it’s been an experience to say the least. Fortunately for me I have had enough growth to wear a man bun for almost the last 2 and a half months. With the help of a blow dryer of course cause the skrinkage is all too real.
It is however with a heavy heart that I announce that I will be permanently retiring my man bun approaching my 26th birthday.
Ironically enough I will be indulging in a new hair journey “waves 2018”
Some what of a new feat for me but not completely. If you personally know me then you know I’ve had low Caesar with waves before. I never took the time to train or maintain my waves they just kind of happened, so now I’m curious to see what will happen with a little effort. Way more excited for the big chop x2 then I am for actually basically growing my hair out all over again but I do enjoy picking up new habit ; even tho I rarely finish things.
So stay tuned for a recap of this year’s hair journey & the next journey to come…

My life as a “Cute” grown ass man..

Some people have cute smiles. Some people have cute personalities. Some people have cute bodies. You can see where I’m going with this.

I have way too many cute attributes. Especially as society expects a grown man of color to be portrayed as.

Now before you think I’m sucking my own dick let me explain I am no way in any form bragging on my cuteness. Honestly the shits not all it’s cracked up to be after age 5.

Just to emphasize; I went through an ugly duckling phase. Weirdly enough I was an adorable little girl then matured into this awkward prepubescent and then evolved in to this adolescent social butterfly.

Between the ages of 5 – 9 I was adorable my dimple would always get my way and my thick eyebrows and hyperjetic facial expressions got me out of almost anything.

As a child I always heard “you are so cute ” “oh wow she is so adorable” I’d give a little fake smile yada yada.

Fast forwarding here cause we are getting off track ; Now at almost 26 years old this “cute thing” does more harm then good in soooo many different ways. Yes of course I’m going to explain.

It’s is so hard to look my age. A simply task, taken for granted; that so many of you do naturally. It’s the 8th wonder of the world for me. I struggle from what style clothes I should wear. The way I wear my hair. Even the way I walk into a business or establishment. It’s a bother it is. And it’s rooted in the basic fact that I have a cute face. When you hear cute facial features your brain doesn’t necessarily think “man” now does it. So put a cute face on a individual the size of a teenager most likely in a Pok√©mon Tee plus the amount of facial hair (mainly peach fuzz) of a prepubescent male. You see a sweet innocent cute young man. In some instances I’ve gotten as young as 14 (Caucasian) an in the rare occasion besides when someone guesses my correct age I’ve only gotten as old as 24 on a good day. You know nice suit fresh shave pep in his step kinda days.

Damn this cute face.

Mistaken identity; believe it or not me being so often perceived as a cute little young boy I get mistaken as such like for real. I’ve gotten stopped for being “truant” at 11:30 on a school day. Getting carded while my young barely legal associates walk right on through. And yes even embarrassingly enough mistook for a son when I was a boyfriend. Issa boyfriend. More recently being hit on by girls that are barely half my age. That’s appalling and disturbing to say the least. Not to mention that 16 year olds are staring to look at attempt to act like grown women. But this hasn’t just happen. This has been going on for quite some time in my liddo ol life. Interesting story about my first age ain’t nothing but a number till ha ppl find out scare. But will save that for another day. Point is when you look young you like shift into a whole other age bracket. And that sucks when it’s like been there done that.

Not being taken seriously. One person has a pit bull as a watch dog , another person has a chihuahua as a watch dog. Which person to you think is getting robbed more ? Maybe an extreme analogy but stay with me. Because this cute attribute makes every day like stressful to some extent. Especially when a person like me is already wary of relationships with other humans. Nice guys finish last but cute guys never finished. When you suffer from a cute personality people often see you as docile calm and in no way a¬† threat. And it’s not like a brightly color “oh that’s cute but that shit can fuck me up cause it’s probably poisonous”. Its like that kid that stalks a harmless butterfly because it’s “cute” and then squashes it because it’s in now way shape or form dangerous.

With that being said take into consideration that I am that cute little butterfly every day of my life.

 

 

So I ask you is being cute all that it’s cracked up to be

Over half a year. *Hair update

Hey hey there.

By now I’m sure everyone is aware that I simply cannot keep a regularly scheduled blog, so yea; I’m done apologizing.

Any who , welcome and this is a quick (aren’t they all tho) update on my hair journey.

Finally officially hitting the halfway point of my first year after the big chop…. And I couldn’t be more irritated. No, seriously.

Still haven’t found a reliable individual to braid my hair, a barbershop or a line for natural hair care; so please understand my frustrations.

However, in good news it’s finally starting to warm up out here in NYC and my hair tends to grow fast in a warmer weather. At least I’m hoping that will end up being good news.

Still keeping the same amount of laziness as far as maintaining my crown.*shrug* I have slacked up on the washing, it’s maybe down to once a week. Trust me it’s killing me slowly especially since now that I sweat on a daily. But finding someone to twist it or do something to it more than once a week is an almost impossible task.

Currently my go – to style is the simple double strand kinky twist. Quick to achieve. Only down side to that is I’m still not all that great and tying up and maintaining it so it starts to look old after 3 days, eh.

I’ve somehow resisted the urge to pull the little shits apart at the first sight of frizz or when they little caterpillars start doing they own. Instead I’ve embraced it and now they all seem to stand up in appreciation , ha ha.

It seems like my hair is going through a little growth spurt of some sort or maybe because since I don’t wash it as often I’m seeing the progress with the annoying shrinkage. Either way I am please with the growth so far in my journey and even more so learning about my crown and all its kinks and curls.

Sorry I don’t have advice for anyone considering the big chop or for those already part of the natural movement. I’m still vaguely new to all this and it’s a learning experience to me. 

Oh and yes I have yet to attempt the familiar straight back cornrows with my undercut style , but I will make my first attempt hopefully within the next month or so ; wish me me luck.
“Let your crown grow free!”
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