R.I.P. 360 waves

It is with a heavy heart I write this

😭😭😭😭😭😭

I don’t know how this happened… 

Well yea I do actually. I was bored so I started fucking with my hair. Fail attempted to bleach my hair with baking soda and perioxide.πŸ™„πŸ€£

Yes I could have just went got hair bleach… But it was more fun to “Do-It-Myself” which didn’t work and failed miserably. It only successfully made my scalp to tender to comb , brush or scratch.

Anyways back to the MURDER at hand. I originally assumed no big deal my waves have bounce back from plenty. My wolf is just starting to really settle in. But I knew I fucked up when I realized I didn’t bring a hard brush…. And I couldn’t find a comb in the house. (Out of town of course)

Still I just knew my waves was going be ok. Even after the damage from this makeshift hair bleach on top of not having any real shampoo in the house (again not at home). I think if I had brushed, even with a soft brush, after that wild wash my waves would still be here.

Once my hair dried the damage was done the fate of the 360 seemed to be sealed… I found a comb about 2 hours later.. but it was no help.

I even rush bought this shitty medium hard brush…. It helped the rotting corpse of what used to be deep 360 waves.. but … I’m sorry everyone… They are gone now…

I will seek help from the elders.. but this may be the end of this journey

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My first holiday miracleΒ 

Yes I don’t really do holidays… Nor am I a Christian.. but, I do know around holiday time (November – December) most humans tend to get “jolly”; the holiday spirit if you will.

A few days after Thanksgiving. Also marking the 1 year mark from the first time I stepped foot on NYC soil… Err, um concrete.

So typical travel dysfunctional morning Iman type of Tuesday. Over sleeps, forgets to purchase ticket, gets lost in subway, can’t find gate etc.

This morning trying return home was as always planned out relatively easy and every goal seemed to be accomplishable. Nope. Of course not. Too easy.

One of my biggest pet peeves of traveling is waking up TOO early. Too early to get ready but too late to get comfy and fall back into a deep sleep. And of course this was the morning my brain and bladder picked to work in unison at an attempt to wake me up on the wrong side of the bed.

I combat both with pissing and pot. Ha ha. Made sure everything was packed and curled up back under my woman. Between the now relief of an empty bladder, the buzz of the bud and the warmth of my partner I found myself fighting a deep sleep quite a few times to say I was only laying down for an hour.

This particular bank card is known to give me headaches but today I was already prepared, or so I thought. Noted now, you probably shouldnt purchase a prepaid debit card with the expectation of being able to use it within the same hour πŸ™„. Rookie mistake. 

The nice people at Duane Read tried their best to get the inefficient card I have been struggling with for almost 3 months now to work. They even had to work some magic even involving a second register to get the card that I now have but probably still can’t use for the the next hour or so. Still, when I walked out the door I felt confident that everything was going to be alright.

Normally I know exactly where to find my gate since I have found my preferred provider for transportation back and forth from Ithaca to NYC. Oh yea but today I’m already off my game. I believe it took me 30-40 minutes to find my gate location. About halfway there I panicked when I realized that the card that I just put all of my cash on can’t be used for online purchases for 2 hours after reload. Or I’m assuming that’s why it wasn’t working. (Cause it works fine now just ordered from Solidarity Soaps)

So I’m in front of my departure gate frantically trying to re-re-re enter all this card information and time is ticking. It’s not looking good. “Error”, “Opps looks like we’re having trouble”, “try using a different card”. Now it’s 10 minutes till departure so I’m calling my boss to tell him there’s an issue, calling my friend to see if he can order my ticket, texting my woman to see if she’s still up. Just a freaking mess. 

The last person in lines goes through the gate so I approach the bus driver (mom’s always said the worse someone could do when you ask them a question is to say no). I explain to him my situation, or at least the relevant parts. My friend calls back “no dice man, tickets aren’t up anymore”. 
And then a holiday miracle happens… 
What’s understood doesn’t have to be explained. But I will say this next time you want to cuss out the employee because the don’t want to give you extra sauce, or angry with the cashier who won’t let you “slide with the 50Β’” , try to remember that is that individuals job, livelihood, income & the way the support themselves and their family. Don’t get upset because they didn’t want to risk it all for you… Just be grateful when you cross paths with an innocent soul who will…
-Iman

Thanks Guy πŸ˜ŽπŸ€—πŸ˜Š

Jaydn Moss ** Commission Art Review

Hey guys, gals & everything in between 😊

Today I’m going to talk a little about the ask guy that did the commission art for my logo that was on the “November fan appreciation giveaway” tshirts.

First off I love my logo 😍 and for all those that won a Tshirt I hope you do too.

I originally heard of Mr Moss’ art work from an Awesome Trans writer by the name Elliot Deline. I was pleased with the art as well as the commission prices.

After reaching out to Jaydn I found that he is very professional and understanding as well as a talented artist. He was in constant contact with me and worked closely with me to get the art just right. 

Jaydn Moss is also a fellow YouTuber and participates in awesome giveaways such as binders and commission arts for free. 

Visit his artist page on Instagram:
http://www.instagram.com/jayscommissions

Check him out on YouTube:
http://www.youtube.com/JaysJourney

Thanks again JaydnπŸ˜‡

360waves, 12 weeks

Progress report. 

C’mon, you should know me by now.

Sooooooo , I have been slacking in the waves department due to work & traveling. Not to mention leaving important items such as durags, brushes & waves grease all over the United States while traveling πŸ™„

Anyways, every second is a second chance.

So it’s been almost 3 months since the big chop and the start of this amazing journey. Here I am 3 months and several hours of brushing later. 😎 I think I am doing pretty good.

Most recently trying to get back in track I’ve been using 3 different methods to try and continue making gains.

Connection Training.
I mixed 2 methods I picked up from fellow YouTubers. Click here: https://youtu.be/M36n07QXoRA to watch a video about my plastic bag/connection training.

COMPLETE brush sessions
Yes. COMPLETE brush sessions. Meaning 30 continuous minutes of brushing with different texture brushes. 10 minutes with a hard brush. 10 minutes with a medium brush. 10 minutes with a soft. At least twice a day, usually once after peel back in the morning and before the durag at night.

Combing my waves.
This method is somewhat still new to me and honestly I need to work on it to perfect it. But this method is helpful for weak sides, missed connections and stretching tight waves for corse hair wavers. This method is best during 4+ weeks into a wolf. The more growth the better. Combing against the grain then combing with the grain followed by a hard brush session. Seems simple, but I have did some damage the first few attempts. I personally do NOT recommend this method for novice or beginner wavers.

I still have a lot of gains to achieve and several hours of repair brushing sessions because I’m lazy and forgetful. But still spinning my guy.

Stay wavey , brushers.
-Iman

No Shave November

Yes, it’s that time of year again.

Most people only know of “No Shave November” as a month of growing a scruffy beard or not having to go to the barbershop for a month. Well I’m here to remind you of it’s true purpose.

First let me say to all those who lost a love one to cancer I am sorry for your lost. And to all those fighting the battle with cancer be strong, fight long and never give up.

No Shave November is to bring awareness to all those battling cancer. During the month of November you are suppose to refrain from your normal haircare routines(not limited by haircuts btw). Then at the end of the month donating the money you would have used for haircuts and hair products to a cancer institution of your choice. Also allowing to grow your hair wild, free & untamed for those going through chemotherapy and suffering from hair loss, since they cannot grow hair like they could before undergoing treatment. Lastly, going from a normally clean shaven individual to someone who desperately needs a barber is bound to draw questions. Allowing the supporting individual to spread awareness by explaining exactly what “No Shave November” is and stands for. It is more than just growing a beard or skipping the barber chair for 4 weeks.

Too often I see Tguys and OneGender guys boast about their beard gains but not acknowledging those fighting for their lives in a battle with cancer or paying respect to those who lost their battle. It upsets me that most of these men don’t know why “No Shave November” was started and fall into the band wagon and just “stop shaving for a month”.

Please stop making this a fad, do your research, and support the cause wholeheartedly.

And yes I am participating in No Shave November 😊 #FuckCancer 

-Iman

An eye opener… New Orleans??

My trip back home was emotional to say the least.. 

On top of dealing with something I thought would be years from now I had to deal with a lot of things I ran from last time I found myself in New Orleans.

Relationships, places, ideas, dreams, hoods…

All things I left behind in my city , or so I thought.

It was all so surreal seeing the apartment I called home with my wife and step kids. Family that I hadn’t seen since the beginning of my transition. Old neighbors & friends doing the same things they were doing almost 3 years ago. Shit was heavy man.

Then there was the missed connections.. people I thought would love to see me, seemed to do everything in their power to avoid me. Only a certain amount of moving hours in a day.. I missed links with people I really wish I hadn’t. Wasted time linking with those I really wish I hadn’t. 

But what was the most interesting thing over this weekend was random conversations I had with not only complete strangers en route and in town but the in depth conversations I had with some people that I never thought I would have. Outside looking in would appear to be minor things, trivial; but to me were monumental moments in my life that reflected the amazing amount of growth I’ve gone through as a person in just under 2 years.

My total travel time was about 8 hrs there and just below 12hrs on the return. *Including layovers and early arrivals at terminals.

I flew economy there and back with short layovers in Atlanta. Not sure what type of plane was from Syracuse to Atlanta and vise versa. But the 757 & 753 to and from New Orleans was the bees knees. Way to go Delta. 

I still prefer buses over flying , maybe one of these days I’ll take a train for the first time. Plane terminals are a lot easier to me. Maybe because most directions to your gate are pretty obvious and simple to read. Or that the fact there was someone I could re-ask what my gate number was almost every 10 ft. 

However as a TMOC , TSA was not so welcoming. Leaving out of New York wasn’t a problem. No extra searches , pat downs or luggage checks. Butttt coming out of New Orleans was the exact opposite. The workers stuck to their story that the extra “care” was because of my type of identification (which wasn’t a problem 4 days prior) but it still didn’t make me any less pissed about the 1st, 2nd or 3rd pat down. The old lady opening up both of my carry-ons or the wierd selfie stick looking device she ran over the edges of my Kindle.

I kept my cool till it was all over with, returned my vans to feet and stormed off to my gate which I made by the skin of my teeth…

All in all I call this an “eye opening” trip moreso than my previous adventures because it is rare that I get to return to a part of my past with fresh eyes. My reaction to almost everything has changed; from my mother’s passive aggressiveness, waiting on the RTA, certain areas of my city, the type of people I (used to) associate with, to way I receive people and they bullshit.

Yup I’ve changed.

The biggest thing that made it all worth while is people noticing the change in my vibe: “You don’t look all stressed” , “Seem to be alot more calm”, “Nothing pisses you off anymore” …

All things I needed to hear 😊 Things that are most certainly true 😎🀘

Be on the look out for my snapchat Vlog (tried something a little different) coming soon to my YouTube channel.

As always, thanks for reading folks and I appreciate your support πŸ€—

-Iman

#FlyHighGeraldineAUNTGERRYJones πŸ˜‡

Temporary Hiatius

Hey readers,

Just thought I should let you know my blog is on a temporary hiatus (this week & next week) due to death in the family. 

I assumed I would still be able to blog… But words not so good right now.

Feel free to check out some of my other social platforms as you wait for me to get my shit together…

-Iman ✌️